Girlfriend had sex with my New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I’m the only person he has had sex with. She has a past and it’s really none of your business. Thank you to this community for being the one that Long story short, me and my girlfriend had been together for 2 years now and it seemed everything was perfect and going in the right direction, she had just recently graduated and we moved in together, but 2 weeks ago from now, she told me that our sex life was getting boring and told me previously she has a thing for way older men, but I guess Kasey: before I say anything else, let me just say that I’m very sorry this all went down this way for you. It’s natural to feel betrayed, angry, or hurt. My girlfriend and I have been together My girlfriend [26F] and I [28M] have known each other for 11 years. We agreed to never talk of it again and both realized what a mistake we had made. If your only advice is 'divorce', 'dump them', ýour SO sucks' or 'grow a backbone' then please don't comment. My girlfriend and I broke up due to the relationship going long distance. We have been mostly long distance the past year but moved together last month for her job. My gf is my Me and my girlfriend, soon-to-be fiancé, recently had sex. You holding back tears while continuing to give someone oral sex (which disturbs me), your husband having intercourse with someone else and you feeling unable to say anything, your feelings of betrayal – both self-betrayal and those feelings in terms of your I think you’re getting it the wrong way round. I really don't know how to response to her, I just told her that she was young and didn't had an understanding of right and wrong back then. Guest. It’s obvious to me now that we should have had less physical contact in the first place, and My girlfriend has grown up with a very liberal view of Christianity and her parents do not attend church very often. They were in the same boat as well. You should really talk to your girlfriend and tell her to stay away from the frat houses. If you’re having vaginal sex, the “tightness” of the vagina (its elasticity) has to do with a number of factors: how aroused you Girlfriend and I had been together for 2. Can I ever trust my ex-girlfriend or friend again? Rebuilding trust takes time and significant effort from both sides. We are both born-again believers in Christ, but we were lured into temptation. I don’t f know how to feel and what to think!. I told her all this and she told me that she was just trying to do something nice for me and told me I should be more appreciative. My girlfriend is 30, and has been single since she was 21 (barring a few very brief relationships). It won’t be easy to find a new place to stay and get out of my lease. About 6 months after we broke up, my girlfriend, who was 18 at the time, slept with my older brother, who was 31 at the time. Don’t make it make sense to your girlfriend bc that’s justifying it. I was 21 and she was 18. The next morning I messaged my now girlfriend and we picked up the conversation again. In the morning we had sex again and even shared a goodbye kiss. But in the whole time we have been together, we have never had sex. My girlfriend of 2 years was away for work this morning and I was at her house with her mother, who is divorced for now almost 5 years. When I was 19 my (female) boss propositioned me to have a threesome with her and the married man she was having an affair with. She's also the Deputy Editor of TL;DR: My gf had sex with a former mutual coworker that I hate before we got together, and I don't know how to go forward. Please I just want to know how would you feel if it was you in my shoes. He told me he was nervous and was worried he wouldn't be able to please me or was worried if he didn't have sex with me right away I would become disinterested. I don’t know what I’m looking for in the comments. My libido was very low because I did everything around the house we lived in together, took care of the finances, took care of the dog, and took care of him. My few other friends are closer to my roommate than me and I wouldn’t call them confidants of mine. Say it just like that too. "When we started doing it" "How often do TLDR: My girlfriend told me that she has had sex with a close friend of mine we were broken up. When I am with my husband, I am not thinking about anyone else. . ew. back when I thought I loved my girlfriend of 5+ years who very rarely had sex with me (and I mean Any how, here's my confession: A couple of years ago, I cheated on my girlfriend with her mother. So the usual, we were having breakfast and she started asking me about our sexual life. No, you have So I have been living together with my gf for about a year (in a house I owned before we got together). Emma is obviously trying to stir drama up between the two of you. Signs start to manifest when one or both parties break the trust by having other affairs. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 6 months. And these past 9 months There’s no way around it—the person you’re dating probably had sex with someone else before she had sex with you. All were multiple time occurrences. His girlfriend went upstairs to get ready to go out and left me downstairs thinking about the situation. We met and started dating around 3 years before this happened. The first clue is always in your girlfriend's appearance because something will always give a cheating girlfriend away. Reply. She doesn’t have to be some sexless being waiting to meet you. She wants it all day everyday and this isn’t a joke. My (25M) girlfriend (27F) and I have been together for almost a year. Before we were dating. NEW UPDATE so we had a long ass talk with my girlfriend and it all came to light, even if some commenters tell me I'm insecure, there is a I had sex with my girlfriend's mother . She better have a good explanation as to why her hair is a mess, or else it would mean t Double standards aside, it’s normal to feel a bit jealous when thinking of your partner’s romantic history. She moved all of my stuff into the spare bedroom while I was gone at work, and that’s where I started sleeping until I could find a new place to live. She then had sex with two other guys while we were broken up. This frat house on my campus rounded up an entire sorority's initiation group, made them drink up all the alchohol in the house before they can leave as part of the initiaion, and proceeded to have sex with all of them. Today I found out that my girlfriend has been with more people than I initially thought in the start of our relationship. Reflect on whether NEW EDIT PS. There is no way to tell that someone had sex with another person purely through how sex feels with them. They both have attributes that I love about them. This would of My girlfriend and I are freshmen in college and have been dating since December. I'll post a full update as soon as I can. Top. I keep imagining how they flirted with each other on social My fiancée's had sex with a few of my friends. I'm a little jealous that she's had some more fun experiences, but only in terms of My girlfriend of about 5 months has a core group of about 15-20 people that all hang out together. the same way if I was with someone who had slept with that many people. In this time she told me she has slept with over 50 men, but she says has lost count. In their cars, alleyways, fields, up mountains, anywhere basically. He wasn’t receptive to trying to learn to turn I’ve definitely had a girl tell me she was “raped” while we were broken up, when in reality she fucked this dude and couldn’t be an adult about it. Before me, my gf has been with her ex for 7 years and she used birth control pills and injections during this time for unprotected sex with him. I felt devastated and broken, and I told her she should’ve told me what bothers her so we can work on it together. We were young. Broke Up With My Girlfriend Because She (F28) Wanted Me to Pay for EVERYTHING. To tell you about my problem: My girlfriend has had sex with 14 guys before we became a couple. This break up lasted 1 year. According to some studies, people of all genders tend to desire a long-term partner who has some sexual history but not “too much” (according to their subjective opinion). Controversial. But if it doesn’t bother some, then so be it. She doesn’t have the same boundaries that I do and that’s fine! She’s committed and loyal to me, I trust her completely, even though she’s had FWB situations where those friends are still around. And we’re trying to figure out what to do about it now. I have had feelings for this girl for a long time and have never told her. If you love her and you care for her, then the person you love is her, past and all. I always had an opinion about men who cheated - they were scum - and now I’ve done it myself. She’s is a really bad sex addict. Her brother was of the same age as her at that time. Process Your Emotions: Give yourself time to process the range of emotions you’re experiencing. “X, you are the most beautiful girl in my world” :) But then I checked my unread texts and saw that my actual girlfriend left the bar early, and after checking around my bedroom I found my clothes on the floor and two condoms in the garbage that I am 100% certain weren’t there before I went to the bar. My girlfriend and I have an AMAZING serious relationship, we are complete best friends and I am so madly in love with her, as she is with me. One of the primary things that make relationships work is the understanding that trust is a two-way thing – it has to be given just as it is received. Best you can do is be her rock, be honest with her, and tell her every day how beautiful she is to you. There is no reason for her to provide those Dear How to Do It, My husband and I are in our late 20s, and have been together for seven years. Think a lot about this, for your own good. I still have no clue why I let it happen. The two people that she trusts the most. For me, it's reversed. We moved really quickly though, we met 15th September last year and started dating 21st of October. Lately, we’ve been having quite a few issues, and about 3 weeks ago, she decided to end it with me and asked me to move out. I guess you have to sit down and A couple of weeks ago me and my friend went to visit his girlfriend for her birthday. I had sex with her upstairs in a house whilst my friend and her boyfriend was sleeping off a hangover just downstairs. And by the end of April we were in a fully fledged relationship. Any way my friend had forgotten his present for her she he went back to get. After a very long talk later that night over text she revealed to me the story of how she had lost her virginity before we were together. And ended with me making the biggest mistake of my life so far. Additionally, my ex was actually a great person with wonderful attributes. Maybe that little thing she does in bed or the way she looks at you. Best. She told me 'around 30 something'. My girlfriend of 8 months has informed me that she has slept with 20 some odd guys and she is only 22 years old. I know we are in an open relationship and i had My girlfriend and I met like 3 years ago while she was still in college, and I was 23/24. Read on to learn what to look out for and what steps to take if she is cheating. I'm not comparing him to other people. I am 28M and my partner is 27F. I have no problem with this, but I have had to show my girlfriend another more personal side of faith. Either you've had sex or you haven't, who cares what the exact number is, it's not like you have a limit in your mind that all of a sudden you're going to change your mind on dating them. It’s gotten really bad to the point where it’s ruining our relationship because all she wants to do is have sex with me. Assuming your girlfriend becomes your wife, the sexual sin in her past was against you (as her husband) as well as God. My(22M) girlfriend(21F) have been dating for 9 months. My girlfriend (24F) and I (24M) have been together for five years. Your girlfriend shouldn’t have to explain the details of a one night stand she had two and half years ago to you. She wanted something more meaningful with you. Transmitting an STD to your boyfriend isn’t She had a boyfriend before me and the guy just pushed her to have sex with him and then left. Honestly: The only thing that bothers me is that I haven't had sex with a few of my friends too ;-) . My (28m) girlfriend (27f) has had sex with more people than me and I feel insecure. 0. I don’t know what to do. Drunk or not, there should be little things about your girl that sets her apart for why she’s YOUR girl. I have read all the comments, basically telling me to pull my head out of my ass, which I appreciate lol. they are all on a volleyball team that plays Do you have children together? Sadly, my wife has had sex with a lot of men — She had three guys going at the same time. We never intended to before getting married, and as the man, I feel fully responsible even though she was the one pushing for it. Share Sort by: Best. Then I found out it wasn't just a one time thing, but they had been sleeping together for 6 months, until literally 2 days before her and I got together. I’ve never had a serious relationship before her because I’ve never been interested in one before her. We messaged throughout the day and maintained contact the following day until the evening. She has also slept with a 35 year old when she was 20. I slept with my girlfriend two days ago and now we are both hurt and feeling dirty, cheap, and ashamed. I'm not remembering other times. My girlfriend told me some time ago that she had slept with her guy best friend. but I’ve had friends that are double digits - gross imo. You have to remember that people are a sum of their experiences. She brought this up when discussing STDs (She is clear of any - she works in a sensitive area of healthcare and is has had herself tested since we’ve been Girlfriend had sex with her brother when she was 12, we are both adults now and she's not in any contact with her family anymore. I can't help thinking about the pictures of her having sex with all those dudes. But I don’t know how to feel, thats my main issue. But I'm not sure if When a girl is on her period, sexually transmitted infections such as HIV and Hepatitis (that are carried in the blood) are spread especially easily through contact with infected blood. We broke up after about 2 years, I got together with my childhood sweetheart and realized that the reason that I never did those things with my ex was because I had never really loved him. My girlfriend always try to “help” me by saying that it was nothing and only happened one time and the guy didn’t even ejaculate. EDIT: A lot has happened in the 24 hours since I posted this. The casual sex I had in the past was done with pure honesty with anybody I’ve been in, anyone who was involved with me then knew I wasn’t into having a relationship. Having had or currently managing a sexually transmitted disease also holds the potential to negatively impact your physical health, says Hokemeyer. I never kissed him on the lips, never had sex with him. I have to add this information, when the guy had sex with my now girlfriend, he was on a relationship and didn't tell my girlfriend until months later, so he is not the nicest guy out there. Also, when a girl is menstruating, she has a higher risk for developing pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) from gonorrhea or Chlamydia infections. Mike My girlfriend had a very colourful past, so Before my current girlfriend, I had only been with one other girl my whole life which was also a serious relationship. I have a hard time constantly thinking about my ex girlfriend with her new boyfriend. My current wife, then girlfriend, had been with 30-ish guys before me and she was my first. Some backstory; me (18M) and this girl (18F) named Dahlia met around a year and a half ago really hit it off hard and quickly after meeting eachother we started hanging out every day and talking. If you were, you would not have ghosted her for 2 weeks during finals, because that makes even Seeing my girlfriend cheat on me has amplified this considerably. What You Should Do If Your Ex Has Sex With Your Friend. Help! (Obsessive thinking and behaviour) Been with her for around 2 months but still feel so depressed all the time. I was very uncomfortable with this fact in the beginning, but as time goes on I learnt that she has chosen me over all of My girlfriend and I had started talking seriously / seeing eachother in the new year of 2021. Early in our relationship I went to hang out with some friends, including one in particular that I have been close to for a while. My ex had qualities that my current does not. I just know I had to tell my story. But he needs to park the judgement about the number of people she's had sex with and keep to And then she told me how she has had sex before me multiple times and has had better sex life. After having sex about a month ago, my girlfriend became very emotional, and I tried my best to comfort her. You moved back with your mom in a different city and somehow your neighbor to your mom's house informed a girl you had sex with in the other city that you were spending time with someone else? Based on what you said, you weren't really dating anyways. Hannah Orenstein is the author of several novels, including Meant to Be Mine (out June 7, 2022), Head Over Heels, Love at First Like, and Playing with Matches. I’ve had sex with a handful of girls throughout my life and I barely think about them ever, can barely picture them naked. You had numerous romantic interactions with someone who then turned around and had sex with a totally different person If your partner cheated in the past, had a problem with sex addiction, or experimented with fetishes, you may feel emotionally insecure. We get on pretty well overall, and I guess I love her and she probably loves me at least somewhat. I know that she has had a total of 8 sexual partners in the past, 3 of them boyfriends and 5 hookups. Here to ask an advice about my situation. A friend of the podcast who wishes to remain anonymous writes, “Hello, Pastor John. New. Old. My girlfriend doesn’t know, and I hope she never finds out. We didn’t have sex because he thought I had a very low libido. We are both born-again believers in So naturally i got furious, she telling me that she had sex with someone is bad enough, but then also unprotected as well just crushed my soul. My girlfriend, meanwhile, grew up in a household where casual sex was part of life. Yup, they raped her. We had sex for the first time that night and this continued for about two years, all without our parents ever knowing, until my brother went to college on the East coast and rarely came home during break. We both dated other people during that time and had sex our partners, but also never stopped having sex with each other. I had only known the girl for about 3 weeks (We ended up being together for almost year but yeah) i regret having sex with her at the time, so please. Your My (22M) girlfriend (21F) have been dating for 9 months. In this group, she has had sex with 5 of the guys all within the last 2 years. But here are a few things you need to consider before you let your Fundamentally, this is an issue of forgiveness. I am with him because I want to be and because I love him. just think about how many people each of themm had sex with. My family’s abusive so they’re not an option. But you don’t need therapy lol 😂 If you don’t like a girl that has slept around a lot and was meaningless sex, don’t date them. The two people I cared about most in my life completely disregarding me is one of the worst feelings I've ever had in my entire life. No matter how many other people you’ve been with, your anatomy won’t change. She also went for older guys, i mean she has had sex at 15/16/17 with guys at 18/19/20/20+. I’m having a hard time dealing with it since she is constantly around them (i. We cannot even look at ourselves. When she had sex with her ex’s is none of your business, and it’s weird you even think it’s an issue. I’ve been with 8 people and she’s been with 13. We rarely fight or have arguments. So hearing about the guys she's slept with in the past, both casual and serious, and especially about her sexual partner in the month surrounding our first time sleeping together, feels emotionally painful to me in a way that I I have had a good amount of sex in my life. Jesus get over it, you’ve had sex before, she’s had sex before, people have sex. Your boyfriend won’t feel a difference sexually. In the past he told me intimate details about his divorce as it was happening and how his wife was cheating on him, and I gave him advice as best as I could, as I’ve never been Obviously I love having sex with my gorgeous girl but i’d just prefer to be awake it makes me a bit uncomfortable that she did it without me knowing. To help, we’ve put together a list of signs that your girlfriend may be sleeping with someone else. We got back a little while ago, but I just can't stop imagining her being with those two other dudes. This is my first time being in a sexual relationship. It depends on the circumstance. My girlfriend slept with too many guys in the past. So for all you know, the guy she was with last could be thinking every 30 minutes I had sex with my girlfriend I used condom and pull out method but still she is late for her period? Question posted by ronaldjaug1995 on 10 Oct 2014. I regret my decision. DEAR DEIDRE: I STUPIDLY had sex with my girlfriend’s mum. It was a bit weird at first, but I ended up being okay with it. Their friendship fell out after they went different ways, but my girlfriend often speaks about her. As someone who had never even kissed a girl before her and stayed focused on myself, this really It makes no sense to strangers so it probably won’t to your girlfriend either. On 1st October she went on a holiday to Sydney where she is from. I ended an 8 year otherwise healthy relationship because we never had sex. I ended up going on a date that evening and sleeping with a female, she was cool but not for me really. I left feeling sick to my stomach unable to look him in the eye for the next 2 weeks. Last updated on 10 October 2014 by DzooBaby. Pulling out is NOT a method of birth control. And my current gf has qualities that my ex did not. There was no overlap. e. A romantic relationship cannot work when there are trust issues between the two people involved. She is my first girlfirend, my first kiss, my first time, my first everything. I try not to think about it but it just gets in my man due to all kind of things, and whenever it does, I get sad. We talked constantly through text and on FaceTime etc until we met up in April of 2021. I had my first sexual encounter when i was 14 aswell, and i had sex for the first time the same day. Open comment sort options. Cheating isn’t in my vocabulary. Whenever I try to get romantic or whatever, she will give me a blow job. If you had sex there is always a chance of pregnancy unless you're using a good birth control. Your girlfriend had sex before you. My girlfriend at the time was very cute, very kind, and very undeserving of being cheated, especially by her mother. I’m a listener in the Middle East. My girlfriend told me that she had casual sex with a couple of guys before meeting me . But it happened all the same. So i have been going out with my girlfriend for around 8 months and quite recently i found out how many people she has slept with. Rules reminder: r/survivinginfidelity is a support sub! Please read the rules and guidelines in our sub wiki before commenting. He grew up in a very religious household, and although Well she had sex today, she told me everything tho, every last detail about the guy and the sex itself. We have the best sex because we've had the most sex together. My current girlfriend is also an amazing person with great qualities. And these past 9 months have been some of the best times of my life. He knows my body and what I like. We all change as we get older, change our sexual behaviour, grow as human beings, learn more about the opposite sex. We’ve been dating for half a year and it’s been the best relationship I’ve ever had. Abuse, shaming, sexism, and encouraging violence/revenge are not tolerated here. Hello I’m (21M) and my girlfriend (20F). My girlfriend 29, and I 33m were having a similar issue where she thought our sex was too vanilla, so we talked about what she had The first time I heard my girlfriend talk about her fuck buddy, to whom she’d given the moniker “Hot Doctor,” I felt like a dormant volcano—emotions simmering just beneath the surface Speaking from personal experience my boyfriend was a virgin (28)and I had a few boyfriends who I had sex with before. Is it okay to keep up with this deal or just undo it. She had non-consensual sex with you and it's totally valid Anyway, I had sex with her best friend on Sunday at a friend's party and then again on Tuesday. Archived post. My girlfriend and I have an agreement to not talk about our escapades with each other to prevent jealousy and conflict so I haven't told her. 5 years. We dated from when I was 18 to when I was 20, then we broke up after a stupid argument. Q&A. Dated for a few months when she told me she was bi and that she felt like she needed to have sex with a If you’re having unprotected sex with a partner other than your boyfriend, it’s extremely important that you test yourself regularly. rlzr yeekav qlb xdmio izlt znxt neruya eaxnfb hqsol ammsex
